1.Dare to say No: Let me just put this right here: women and their emotions. Their sensitivity, but mostly the fact that they want to be liked by everyone is deep. Trust me, I. Know. The. Deal.
However, listening to your gut feeling and actually acting to it is a totally different thing. When it comes to doing business, I see how many people (women in particular) struggle with simply saying no. We are pleasers. We want people to like us, we want people to say good things about us, we want to be able to do ALL of it instead of saying no to something. But guess what: this isn’t helpful at all. Sometimes saying no to someone or something is the best thing you can do for you. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t continue doing it. Even if that means you have to disappoint a lot of people. Your business is not to be mess around with.
2. Not everyone is going to like you. So don’t worry and focus on your business. What is right for you? What does it bring YOU?
I’m the same. I want to be a likeable person because that’s how I want others to see me. More importantly: that’s how I was raised. I come from a super loving and warm family. We all help each other out when needed. I’m aware of what people can do for you and what you can do for them. Which is why you want to be helpful, kind and thoughtful.
But when you start a business or are on the work field you have to think about how you want others to view you. So when you hear people saying things about you that don’t fit your personality or how you view yourself, you find yourself surprised, but also a little disappointed. “That’s what they think of me? How? What did I do?” It makes you wonder if others see you the same way you see yourself but most importantly, how you WANT them to view you.
Even though other people’s opinions don’t really matter, it’s a natural thing that we still feel a certain way about it. (I say this because I’ve actually went through this recently). But you know what, there it is again: not everyone is going to like you. It’s technically impossible. Every person views you from their own perspective, dealing with their own emotions. Perhaps they are having a shitty day at that time, who knows. But it’s ok. Don’t let it get to you.
With this in mind, it will also make it much easier for you to say no every once in a while (for your own benefit). That obviously doesn’t mean you have to be rude. You can gracefully, respectfully and kindly say no. But to be able to make someone or yourself happy, you sometimes need to disappoint others. That’s just the way it is. There’s no flowers without rain and there are no good times without bad times. Learn when to say no, listen to your gut feeling and know when you need someone’s help.
3. Communication is Key: Basically in life, in general, communication is everything. Whether it’s in a relationship, friendship or with colleges. Knowing and expressing what you want, explaining your vision, is what’s gonna bring your business or work to the next level.
Communication is also in the little, more daily things. It basically has a bit to do with being organised. I remember when I was in high school, I never understood why we always had to plan so much, schedule things, have deadlines and keep a logbook. But it’s actually VERY handy to be organised and to work like that from an early age. It makes communication much easier because you have an overview. It’s especially very handy when your team expands. If you don’t communicate well, you will lose credibility, trust and — TIME! And you know, time is money.
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